Can Do Mindset.
What does that phrase mean to you?
Does it mean…
You wake up exhilarated.
You can’t wait to start your day.
You grab a cup of coffee at the local coffee shop and someone smiles, you smile back.
This is going to be a great day.
The energy is uncomfortable.
You try to ignore it, but…
Walking back to your home-office sipping on your coffee you’re back to your pleasant mood.
Some jerk honks at you because you’re using the cross walk, what?
Frustrated and angry because Mr. Car Horn Jerk made you spill your coffee you walk faster.
By the time you get home you’ve replayed the honking incident in your mind at least 20 times with different scenarios.
You shut the front door.
You trash your coffee. Dang it, you really wanted to enjoy that coffee.
You sit down at your laptop, open it, and type your next blog post – angrily tapping on the keys.
Done. You’re finally done. You shut the laptop and relax in front of the television.
Finding nothing to watch on your 100+ channels you turn it off and head to bed.
You’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and frustrated.
What just happened?
How many times have you let the energies of others interrupt your “can do” mindset?
Far too many, right?
We all know that building a business is challenging.
You need all of your good energy. You need all of YOU.
So, how can you keep your mind, body, and soul attuned to your goals without letting other’s derail you?
Develop a Powerful Can Do Mindset
Okay, Sara, but how?
Little by little, step by step with consistent inspired action and persistence.
You know I’m all about easy, right?
I naturally make things harder on myself than necessary.
This is why I like to break things down into 15-minute tasks or routines.
Grab a pen and paper, open up a Word document, or print this inspired action checklist.
You’re about to get some inspired knowledge.
Step 1: Your Personal Energy is Influenced By Those Around You
Did you notice when our sample day was thrown off kilter? It was with the negative energy from the disgruntled customer.
Did you notice when our sample day was uplifted? It was when you received a smile from a stranger and smiled back.
Your personal energy is powerful. But, people and circumstances can influence that energy.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “If Mama’s not happy, ain’t nobody’s happy”.
Your mood and attitude spread just like a wildfire.
Whenever I feel a bit down, a quick search for “baby smiles” will lift my mood.
What inspires you?
- Write down 3 instant mood makeovers.
Who believes in you?
- Write the names of 3 people.
Next time someone tries to derail you or self-doubt creeps up, connect with these mood lifters.
Remind yourself, “Yes, I Can Do It!”.
Step 2: Take Inspired Action
I work with a lot of people who use affirmations. I’m all for thinking positive, but affirming something that isn’t true doesn’t sit well with me.
In aby Joanne V. Wood, W.Q. Elaine Perunovic, and John W. Lee, they found that…
Repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people, but backfire for the very people who “need” them the most.
Sit in front of the mirror and say “[your name], I love you.”
How did that make you feel?
It’s awkward for me but it also unleashes a whole slew of negative jeers. I’m guessing because I don’t believe it.
Instead, I like to repeat positive quotes, scripture, and truth.
For example, “Sara, you’re stupid. You’ll never be able to do it. Why do you always set yourself up for failure?” This negative self-talk is quenched by “Delight in the Lord. Trust the Lord. Commit your works unto the Lord.”
It calms me to lay all of my stress and doubt at the feet of my God. It’s my crutch. If I can release the pressure, I can move in inspired action.
How do affirmations work?
Affirmations work by repeating the positive inverse of something. For example, “I hate exercise.” The positive inverse is “I love exercising my healthy body”.
It works for many people including Will Smith, Oprah Winfrey, Lindsey Vonn, and Jim Carrey.
Will it work for you?
Give it a try.
- Write a list of all your insecurities, negative thoughts, self-doubts.
- Now, rewrite them as positive thoughts.
For example, if you write “I procrastinate and never get things done” rewrite it as “I am productive and complete every project I start“.
Schedule time for your can do mindset training.
- 5-minutes when you rise
- 5-minutes when you eat
- 5-minutes when you rest
Don’t forget to remind yourself, “Yes, I Can Do It!”.
Step 3: Derail Negative Thoughts
Just like other’s energy can influence you, negative thoughts can too. They can prevent you from taking risks, moving forward, speaking up, and hitting publish.
You’re cruising along down the tracks of your business plan when something derails you. It’s that stinkin’ thinkin’ again.
I know someone who leads a mastermind group, she uses Intimidation Crushers. These are small little self-talks that make you think. For instance, she has one about spending less time with the person who tells you “everything is okay” or “you’ll get there someday” instead of calling you out on your excuses and lack of action.
How do you derail negative thoughts?
Grab your notes.
- Write down 3 triggers that will ignite your positive (truth) thoughts.
For me, Mel Robbins 5-second rule works for me. Try it.
- The minute you catch yourself thinking a negative, say STOP
- Count down from 5-4-3-2-1 GO
- Say the truth
For example, I’m going along having a great day when negative Sara pops in and says “You’re not smart enough“.
First I say STOP.
Second, I count down from 5 and say GO.
Finally, I tell myself the truth “You are smart enough. Remember graduating with honors from college? Remember passing Anatomy, Physiology, Chemistry, and Physics? Yes, Sara, you are smart enough. This may be challenging, but not impossible.”
Negative emotions can also derail you.
Remember the smiling babies?
Looking at smiling babies, daffodils, waterfalls, or scenes from my favorite Korean romantic-comedies bring out my positive emotions.
What brings out your positive emotions?
- A song?
- A motivational talk? [5 TED Talks to PowerUp Your Mindset]
Whatever it is, do that. You may want to schedule some time in your day to upload some positive vibes. 😉 This will go a long way in developing your “can do” mindset.
You may want to schedule some time in your day to upload some positive vibes. 😉
This will go a long way in developing a can do mindset.
Remind yourself, “Yes, I Can Do It!”.
Step 4: Be Willing to Let Go
There is strength in letting go. Remember in step 2 I mentioned how when I’m overwhelmed I simply leave it at the foot of my God? That is letting go.
When you focus on positive things like growing your business, connecting with influencers, or attracting high-end clients, those things are attracted to you. But, if you focus on scarcity, lack, poverty, or difficult clients, you attract it.
Are you intentionally trying to attract frustrating clients or stall the growth of your business? No.
When you made your goals for your business, did you intend to reach them? Yes.
Live like it then.
You made the goals (or intentions) now take the inspired action to reach them.
Let Go and release your can do mindset.
Leave it to God.
You’ll find that letting go will bring freedom, a can do mindset, and release much-needed energy.
Give it a try.
Remind yourself, “Yes, I Can Do It!”.
Step 5: See Challenges As Opportunities
Louise Hays says that “Challenges are opportunities for me to grow“. Do you look at them in the same light?
In the scriptures, First Thessalonians 5:18 KJV, it says “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God through Jesus Christ concerning you“.
How can you give thanks in ALL things? Impossible, right?
Back in 2013, my blog on Blogspot was deleted. I panicked. I contacted support and put in a request to have it manually viewed (I knew it wasn’t a spam blog).
They got back to me, returned access to my blog, I was relieved. But, I also took this time to hire someone to transfer my blog to WordPress self-hosted.
A few days later my blog was removed again. Frustrated does NOT begin to describe my feelings that day.
I put the transfer off for months. This challenge was an opportunity for me to take action, NOW and not later.
Looking back, I’m thankful for that experience, that challenge, that opportunity. It taught me a lot. I grew a lot.
I’m now a full-fledged proponent of self-hosted sites. People warned me, I took the advice and did nothing. I could have lost it all (as I was warned by business friends), thankfully I didn’t.
Most people will gladly give thanks for the good in their life, a few will be thankful for the challenges and difficulties.
What about you?
What are you thankful for?
Grab your notes again.
- Write down 3 challenges or difficulties that you are thankful for. This exercise alone is a challenge, isn’t it?
- Schedule 5-minutes a day to write or meditate on gratitude.
Each day is a gift, each interaction a blessing, what opportunities will you allow to grow you?
Developing a CAN DO MINDSET doesn’t have to take a lot of time. You can fit these little habits into your schedule in 15-minute increments. Take one at a time if need be.
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This post is part of the Ultimate Blog Challenge July 2017.
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